World of Women Choices Cancer Survivor By Karen Blaker, Ph.D. According to the American Cancer Society, 2 million Americans have been successfully treated for cancer and will live out their normal life spans unaffected by the disease. Fortunate as these survivors are, they are not without problems. For example, they are discriminated against in employment and insurance, overprotected by their friends and relatives, and isolated from others who have lived through the fear and uncertainty associated with the disease. If you have recovered from cancer, you will probably recognize many of the feelings expressed by one survivor who called a hot-line for help.
Here is an excerpt from that call. (Personal information in all hot-line excerpts has been changed to protect the caller's confidentiality.) TOM: My battle with cancer is finally over. I feel grateful, but I still can't relax. I can't stop worrying. Maybe I am just selfish and want all the attention I got when I was sick to continue.
Now, that is ridiculous. COUNSELOR: What do you mean your battle with cancer is over? TOM: Well, I've made it through five years without any symptoms and the American Cancer Society considers that as good as cured. I should be celebrating. Instead, I am worrying about when it will come back. COUNSELOR: What does your doctor say? TOM: He gave me a clean bill of health last week.
He says I am a lucky guy. I know that's true, but it just makes me feel guilty because I am not happy. COUNSELOR: How long have you been living with cancer? TOM: Altogether? Let's see, it has been almost 10 years. That's a long time, isn't it? COUNSELOR: It certainly is. I am not surprised that you can't just snap your fingers and forget about the whole thing.
And the five year figure that's rather arbitrary, isn't it? TOM: I'm so glad you said that. I have been wondering how confident I should really be when cancer has reappeared in people I know after nine or 10 years. COUNSELOR: I guess you are pretty safe statistically after five years. But, as you say, that doesn't mean any guarantee. TOM: And if my luck holds out, I will just relax and it will strike me again.
COUNSELOR: You mean the cancer? TOM: Yes. So I tell myself I shouldn't let my guard down. I know it sounds superstitious, but I feel as though I can ward off cancer by always DE being anxious about its return. COUNSELOR: I guess you feel you can protect yourself that way. Having those pessimistic thoughts could actually shield you against hearing the shocking news again as you did the first time.
TOM: That was terrible. I told myself I would always be prepared for the worst after that. COUNSELOR: On the other hand, you have re to get on with your life. TOM: Cancer has been my life for so long. I have almost forgotten about everything else.
I have been SO frightened of dying that thinking about living now seems almost anticlimactic. COUNSELOR: You must have been very sick. TOM: Believe me, no one thought I would live more than a year. And it was nine years ago that it was so bad. I feel lucky, but I also feel a little guilty about living when so many people die from cancer.
Maybe I have an extra responsibility to do something great with my life because I made it. That frightens me when I think about the future. I must sound crazy. COUNSELOR: No. I can understand how you might feel that way.
But don't put extra pressure on yourself. Why not merely pick up the pieces where you left TOM: It doesn't sound so difficult when you put it that way. Reassured that he didn't have to feel guilty about his feelings, Tom began to talk about what he was going to do with the rest of his life. Dr. Blaker cannot take telephone calls from her readers.
However, there are hundreds of crisis intervention phone lines in the United the phone number of one near you, contact your local mental health association or mental health information service. Write to Dr. Blaker in care of this newspaper, P.0. Box 475, Radio City Station, New York, N. Y.
10019. Volume of mail prohibits personal replies, but questions of general interest will be discussed in future columns. Polly's Pointers Charred Burner Blues By Polly Cramer DEAR POLLY This is my first letter to you but I never miss reading the Pointers. I would like to know how to clean the burned burners on my gas stove. They are black but need a good cleaning.
MRS. G.S.D. DEAR MRS. G.S.D. I presume you mean the plates around the burners on your gas stove.
If they are black enamel a soap-filled steel wool pad should remove the burns. Thorough and frequent washing with soap and water should keep them in good shape. Never wash them while they are hot. If they are cast iron you might remove them and boil in threefourths cup of washing soda and water in an enamel pan. Then rinse and dry.
If the burns go through the finish on such burner plates there is 3 not much you can do. POLLY DEAR POLLY My Pet Peeve is with those people who do a job for you and say it is guaranteed for a certain number of years. Then in a year or so when you have a complaint you cannot get in touch with the manager of the company. His secretary always says he is out and will call back, which he never does. H.L.N.
DEAR POLLY I would like to share what I think is my best homemaking idea. Suspend a rod about six or eight inches down from the ceiling over your laundry, tubs. An old broom handle or mop handle works just fine for this. Such a rod is indispensable to me. I hang my drip dry blouses, children's rain-soaked jackets and freshly ironed clothes on it.
I always keep extra hangers on it to be ready at any time. MARYANN DEAR POLLY When sending a gift to a new arrival I always enclose several two-inch safety pins with crochet around the top edge and a small crocheted flower fastened to the center. TILLIE DEAR POLLY My husband and I read the column faithfully and use many of the Pointers. I now have a Pointer for home gardeners. We use string line when we plant seed so as to keep the rows straight.
I mark my hoe handle with a marking pen at six-inch intervals so it serves as a yard stick for measuring the space between rows. My husband sprays the garden tools with bright colored paint so they will not be so forgotten or lost in the grass or garden. P.D. DEAR POLLY My Pet Peeve has always been with candles that bend in the candle holders after I set an elegant table. But now the problem is solved.
Using colored paper napkins or crepe paper I cut several pieces into long leaf and petal USED SPINET SALE From to' $90000 Free Delivery Tuning with purchase Cash Discounts Given HURRY LIMITED SELECTION Ask About Our Unlimited Lease Plan Summerhays Provo Music 55 West 200 North, Provo 374-1760 Monday thru Friday 10 am 106 pm Saturday 9. a to 5 p.m, Friday, July 21, 1978, THE HERALD, Provo, Utah--Page 21 Joyce Ann Wernz Marries Sterling Draper in Temple Joyce Ann Wernz and Sterling R. Draper were married this morning in the Manti LDS Temple. A wedding breakfast was given by the bridegroom's parents at the Oak Crest Inn in Spanish Fork Canyon. A reception will honor the couple tonight from 7:30 to 9:30 p.m.
at the Women's Cultural Center. Provo. Friends and relatives are invited to attend. The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs.
W. B. Wernz. Provo. She graduated from Provo High School and attended Snow College where she graduated with an associate degree in special education.
She is currently employed at American Fork Training School. Sherri Allen Weds Cory David Boyles Sherri Lynn Allen. daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Jim Allen, Lehi, exchanged wedding vows today in Lehi's Colonial House with Cory David Boyles.
He is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Gerald FulImer, Sandy. A reception will honor the couple this evening from 8. to 10 p.m.
at the Colonial House. The bride wore a princess style gown of chiffon and daisy lace. Short lace sleeves enhanced the gown. She wore a white picture hat trimmed in daisies to which attached a chiffon bow. She carried pink roses, white daisies and blue baby's-breath.
Attending the bride as maids of honor were Debbie Allen, a sister, and Peggy Kohler. Bridesmaids were Tonnette Jacketta. Chris MRS. CORY DAVID BOYLES (Sherri Lynn Allen) Reception Tonight Boyles and Leslie Greene. with Alicia Greene and Lisa Boyles as junior bridesmaids.
Flower girls were Heather Parrish and Jana Fullmer. They wore pink and blue patchwork design summer gowns and carried pink roses, white daisies and blue baby'sbreath. Sharing best man honors were Philip Green, Raymond Jones. Randy Hickman and Ron Park, with Michael Park. Glad de Woolstenhulme and Bobby Park as ushers.
Special guests included "Restaurant" was originally the name of a soup invented in 1557 by a Frenchman names Palissy. The soup consisted of finelyminced fowl and broth highly spiced with cinnamon and coriander. SIDE GLANCES by Gill Fox MENCAL DOCTOR tony 10 1978 by NEA. Inc. T.M.
Rey U.S. Pat. Of "You need either a brain stimulant or a tongue tranquilizer!" shapes and arrange them over the holders, then insert the candles making sure there are enough pieces to hold the candles erect. Bend the petals down by wrapping around a pencil to give the appearance of flowers. The paper also catches any drippings that may fall.
PATTI DEAR POLLY I want to tell the reader who has frayed tips on men's and boys' shirt collars that too, had this problem. I solved it by no longer putting the shirts in the dryer. I decided the wear and tear was caused by the tumbling action. I now drip dry such shirts: and have found that the collars outlive the shirts. MRS.
F.J. HUNGRY HERBERT IN BRING THE KIDS AND MEET HUNGRY HERBERT SAT. JULY 22nd AT THE HI-SPOT ON 618 E. 300 So. PROVO FROM 11:30 A.M.
4:00 PM FREE BALLOONS! HI PROVO OREM SPOT AM. FORK The bridegroom, son of Mr. and Mrs. Don R. Draper.
Pleasant Grove. graduated from Pleasant Grove High School and attended Snow College. He served in the Melbourne. Australia LDS Mission. The bridal gown was designed and made by the bride and her mother.
Attending the bride will be Virginia Allen Wernz and Kendall Newson as matron of Draper as ushers. honor. Other attendants Showers for the bride will be JoAnne Wernz, were given by Karen Karen Pope. Janet Pope and Janet Labrum; Labrum and Ruth by Linda Smith and Ruth Morrey. Flower girls Morrey and by Teresa will be Andrea Lynn Marsh.
Wernz and Julianne Following their Draper. marriage and honeyKirk Orton will per- moon the couple will form the duties of best make their first home in man with Rex Morrey, Lindon. Mr. and Mrs. Frank Tuck.
California, grand- parents of the bride. Prenuptial parties were given by Peggy Kohler. by Sandy Rowland. and by Marcia Parrish. The newlyweds plan to reside in American Fork.
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